Responsibility and Change

Have you ever wondered where it came from? Where it started, or maybe what caused it? Change is inevitable. Can we fight it? I believe people only change if they really want to, I don't think anyone is changed by anything other than their desire to be different. Yes, I believe that what we surround ourselves with can add to who we are, can even take away from who we are, but I don't believe that it can actually alter who we are deep down inside. That can only be done by a choice, by the decision to change. Unfortunately many times people use change as an excuse, they use it to hide from their problems, run away from them, or escape responsibility. Because to them, the idea of change is more comforting and secure then the idea of dealing with the guilt and remorse that comes with responsibility. Is there anything we can do about this? No, because just like how change is a choice, so is responsibility. We can't force responsibility on anyone, just like we can't force change on anyone. They have to want it. They have to desire it, and until they do, it will be like preaching to def people. We won't be heard, we won't be acknowledged, and it will mean nothing to them. This lays claim to one of the most heartbreaking and heart wrenching things we will ever have to do...sit back and watch, as they make the decisions for themselves on what change they will accept, on what actions they will take responsibility for. Many times it will not go our way, and we will have to stand by helplessly as they choose another path, but every now and again, ever so rarely, someone will surprise us. Someone will accept the change, or take on the responsibility, and in that moment we will know that they are worth it, that they mean what they say, and will stand by what they say.